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Why Nice Guys Finish Last

“It’s so unfair. Nice guys always finish last.”

We’ve all heard it before: the idea that guys who are kind and treat a girl well never actually get the girl. They lose her to the “bad” guy who doesn’t treat her right and cheats on her and is just an all-round asshole blah blah blah.

There’s countless articles about why this is; studies and reports telling you that women enjoy a “challenge” and are naturally more attracted to men who aren’t “easy”, but I’m not going to talk about that.

Not just because I think it’s been done to death but because I think there’s a much simpler truth behind it. Continue reading

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How To Stop Breaking Your Own Heart

 

“No one is going to love you exactly like you imagine. No one is ever going to read your mind and take every star from the sky at the perfect time and hand it to you. No one is going to show up at your door on a horse, with a shoe you lost. Do you understand? That’s why you have to love yourself enough, so that any other love just adds more candles to the cake you’ve already iced.”Stephanie Bennett-Henry

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Coming Home: Reflection Time

Six months ago, I sat tucked up in my warm bed at my mother’s house, writing The Next Chapter and feeling torn. Unsettled. Excited, but scared. So wanting to leave, but so wanting to stay. It was the night before I was flying to Mallorca, where I was going to spend six months working as part of my degree.

Fast forward six months and here I am: Palma airport, waiting to board my flight back to Scotland. Feeling… exactly the same. Feeling torn. Unsettled. Excited, but scared. So wanting to leave, but so wanting to stay.

This, Bon, is the price you pay for living a life of adventure. Continue reading

Looks Are Overrated

How many times have you been walking around, minding your own business, when your friend’s eyes widen and they grab you, or give you the nudge or the “don’t look now, but…” and you know you’re in for a treat. You swing your head around to see what the fuss is about Continue reading

Dealing With Stress

I used to think stress was all a load of rubbish. I used to think it was a term used by doctors when they didn’t know what else to say, but I’ve changed my mind recently. Stress is real, and it causes some very real, very serious problems. It’s difficult as well, because it’s not obvious. You don’t always know you’re stressed. Not until Continue reading